She mocks those who believe in abstinence. Queen Bees is more directed toward the parents of teenagers than Reviving Ophelia , but don't let that scare you off if you are a bullied student or interested in combating bullying from a sociological perspective. Queen Bees was a helpful resource for me, who was bullied by mostly female peers from early adolescence into early adulthood with varying degrees of visciousness.
I occasionally return to materials on bullying to help me understand what happened to me and how it still shapes my personality to this day, and to help me be a better resource for patrons who may ask me about classroom cruelty. I fit into none of these, because, well, I was a textbook Target. Wiseman writes of the Target: -She feels helpless to stop the girls' behavior. No one will back her up.
She feels ashamed of being rejected by the other girls because of who she is. She'll be tempted to change herself in order to fit in. She feels vulnerable and unable to affect the outcome of her situation. She could become so anxious that she can't concentrate on schoolwork. Yep, that was me, all right. Queen Bees hits the nail on the head when it informs readers that teens will rarely tell their parents the whole scope of what's going on. The insidious thing about bullying is the way it takes control of your brain: "Are they seeing something I'm not?
I honestly wish this book would have been available to them when I was starting junior high and high school. Wiseman also categorizes students outside the social cliques.
I do wish Wiseman would have talked more about how our social roles in youth often influence the development of our personalities as adults. The author spends much time discussing the crucial aspect of boyfriends and correctly states that a relationship is a "crucial validation" for a girl that "increases her sense of self-worth. We are not a culture that holds singledom in high regard. Even though I was very much an adult when I entered into my first serious relationship, I too felt the rush of validation when I could finally say I had a boyfriend.
Most females in our culture look to males for feelings of belonging and self-worth, and this is a problem of society in general, not just youth culture. Claire Greene.
This book is a must read if you have children. Not even just a girl, but any children. This book gives an enormous amount of insight into girls and, for that matter, women. Even if you have a boy, he will either date girls or be friends with them or both, so reading this book will still prove invaluable! The book itself is written well - very personable with a balance between informative information facts, science, studies , personal anecdotes of both teens and moms, quotes from teen girls and a good amount humor.
The resources section in the back alone is worth the price of the book in my opinion. But beyond that, she has a great way of putting it all together to create an enjoyable and informative book. I'll admit that the book also did a lot of eye opening for me with regard to my own high school experiences and friends.
I was NOT a queen bee but it was very interesting to realize what "type" I was, why certain circumstances were the way they were or played out the way they did ie. That fact is one I really appreciated - I often read things that seem to suggest being friends and allowing almost anything, which isn't something I don't agree with and can't stand. The author gives many realistic suggestions not always what you want to hear, but based in reality! There were a few times I thought it got a bit dry and I have been trying to get through and finish the book FOREVER, but I think it had more to do with the hectic nature of my life lately than any reflection on the author or her abilities.
But I mention it because if you are not able to really read the book and give it the attention it deserves, I'd recommend setting it on the to-read shelf until you do have the time. If that will never happen on its own, then try to make the time because this book is invaluable.
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Check Holdings for more information. Queen Bees and Wannabes is Mapquest for parents of girls, from fifth grade all the way to young adulthood. Why is one girl elevated to royal status and another shunned? Queen Bees and Wannabes answers these unfathomable questions and so many more. Wiseman gives parents the insight, compassion, and skill needed to guide girls through the rocky terrain of the adolescent social world.
This is such an honest and helpful book; we recommend it highly. Wiseman explains the inner workings of teen culture and teaches parents, educators, and peers how to respond. No, the harm cliques cause is not a natural fact of life. Wiseman gives us both hope and strategies to help our girls and boys build a more healthy, nurturing world for themselves. Based on the most thorough, helpful research I know of, this book should be required reading for parents, teachers, and health professionals.
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